Children Learn From Us

“We’ll be line forever right mommy?” He said tugging on his mom’s pant leg. He was probably four, maybe five years old.

I chucked to myself as she shushed him and said “No, not too long.”

This little lesson comes courtesy of a very long checkout line at Aldi.

A Lesson Demonstrated

Through my witness of this seemingly insignificant exchange between mother and child the Lord reminded me just how much my words and actions impact my son and how he will see his world and interact with it.

The idea that we influence our children isn’t new; I’m sure you’ve heard it before.

Our children will emulate what they see and hear from the adults in their lives, especially their parents.

I pass no judgement on this mother and her child, perhaps he did not hear her say such at thing before but the lesson to me remains clear.

When the guy in the car ahead of me is doing 30 in a 45 and I say “Come on buddy, gas pedal is on the right.”  Is that something I want my son to say some day?  Sure, me he might say it one day but do I want it to be because he got the example from me?

Positive Influence

I had another example of this valuable lesson a few days later in my kitchen.

As I do every few days I was running the vacuum, sweeper as we call it around here.  Little man was playing with the attachments and I could not figure out what he was doing with them.

I watched him a bit more closely and realized that he was imitating me when I run the sweeper by using the attachment to “clean” around the edges and beneath the counters.  He proceeded to the living room where he did the same thing under the television.

At eighteen months he sees what I do and wants to do the same. It is amazing and honoring. And truthfully a bit scary.  The thought that seemingly insignificant tasks are examples for him to follow is daunting.

If left to myself I’m a mess, I’m pessimistic, judgmental, grumpy and a bit on the selfish side.  I don’t want my son to be like that.

My Example, His Example

There is hope.  If I focus daily on the Lord, lean on Him for strength and look to Him as my example there is hope that I can be a better example for my son.

“Trust the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding” ~ Proverbs 3:5

“You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires, to be made new in the attitude of your minds, and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. “ ~ Ephesians 4:22-24

Daily I must renew my mind and spend time with the Lord.

I must also keep godly company.

I must read godly books, magazines and blogs; things that are encouraging to me as a mother.

Ultimately I must take my example from the life of Jesus. I must be as a little child with Jesus; watching Him and learning from Him.

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As He is my example and I exude more of Christ in my life I will naturally become a better example to my son and everyone else around me.

 

Do your children imitate you or your spouse? If so how?

Until Next Time,

Be Blessed

Perception

Here it is 3am.  Baby was up for an unknown reason.

Diaper change.

Cuddle in our bed.

Back to the crib.

Cold? Wet? Lonely?

A combination of all three.

14 months ago I’d have been mad that he was. Mad that I was up. Mad that I couldn’t go back to sleep.

Today I’m thankful that I got to hold my baby awhile before I get ready for work.

Thankful that he wanted to snuggle.

That he’s back to sleep.

Thankful for some extra morning quite time with the Lord.

Our perception of the circumstances we face have much to do with the outcome.

Until Next Time,

Be Blessed

Life – Simplified

An early morning date with the Lord.

A hot steamy mug of coffee.

A candle softly flickering.

A memory verse on the counter.

A tap on the leg from my little man wanting me to play.

A gentle unsolicited kiss.

Wiping away ouchie tears and holding him tight.

Bedtime Prayers

A snuggle on the couch with hubby after bed time.

These are the things I’ll remember today.

The dishes, the laundry, the mop and sweeper they will still be here tomorrow.  They are necessary but oh so unimportant compared to the living, breathing ones in my home.

God delights in me and I in Him.

My son knows he is safe and important to me.

My husband needs quality time with me.

This is life.

This is life simplified.

Until Next Time,

Be Blessed

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Prayer Topics for Our Children {Free Printable}

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Perhaps you know the importance of praying for your children or grandchildren but you don’t know specifically what to pray for.  Perhaps you are just learning how important praying for your children is and wonder where on earth to begin.  As Christians, when we hit our knees in prayer for our youth it is spiritual warfare.  I urge you to pray not only for the young ones in your family but those in your church, your neighborhood and this nation.  The babes of today are tomorrow’s leaders.

There are several good resources available.  Inspired To Action has a great calendar-style prayer chart with specific prayer topics.  My good friend Tabby also shared a topics sheet with me that I thought was an excellent resource. 

Please click below for your free printable.

Prayer Topics for Your Children and Grandchildren

Until Next Time,

Be Blessed

 

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Children Learn What They Live

Children are our greatest asset, an inheritance from God.  Satan loves to kill our children.  You need only look at the number of children whose lives are lost every year through abortion, murder and other tragedies not to mention those who are abandoned and neglected.  He especially wants to destroy the lives of Christian Children.  What a threat they are to him.  As parents and grandparents we have a responsibility to pray over our children. We have a right to claim the promises of the Lord for our children and grandchildren. 

After posting about praying for our children my good friend Tabby sent me something I wanted to pass along to all of you…..

 

Children Learn What They Live

If a child lives with:

Criticism he learns to condemn.
Hostility he learns to fight.

Ridicule he learns to be shy.

Shame he learns to feel guilty.

 

Encouragement he learns confidence.

Praise he learns to appreciate.

Fairness he learns justice.

Security he learns faith.

Approval he learns to like himself.

Acceptance he learns to live in this world.

Love he learns to love others.

Godliness he learns to love God.

–Author Unknown

 

 Until Next Time,

 Be Blessed

Praying for Our Children

Psalm 127:3        

Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. (English Standard Version)

Lo, children are a heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. (KJV)

Children are an inheritance from the LORD. They are a reward from him. (God’s Word Translation)

Lo, children are a heritage of Jehovah; and the fruit of the womb is his reward. (ASV)

It is clear – children are given to us by God. They are his heritage, our inheritance.  They are the fruit of a woman’s womb and a reward to us.

 Naked and needy, vulnerable and impressionable God’s heritage birthed forth to us, sinners who struggle daily, as gifts from God.    

 What a gift given to such an unworthy recipients.  By His grace and mercy alone we are able to clothe them, care for them, mold them and guide them as they grow. 

Pray Life and Speak Destiny

 Last week the Lord spoke to me about speaking destiny over Wyatt and the other babies in our church.  We are given these gifts yet we know nothing of their future.  We are charged to care for and guide them yet we know not what they are to become.  Or do we?  They are God’s heritage. They are destined to do great things for Him.  He after all is the creator and we are the creation. We are all here for His glory and honor and praise.

 Satan of course has different plants.  He wants nothing more for our children to know nothing of God, to follow the world and fall as far from their destiny as possible. In short he wants them dead physically or spiritually.  Why is there such an attack on our children? Because Satan knows that they are destined to do great things. 

 One of the most important things we can do for our children is pray over them. Pray protection over them, speak life into them.  Speak destiny over them.  You don’t have children yet? Even better! Speak life over that unborn child! It is never too early to start praying for your children.  The Lord knows us and our destiny before we are born.  Pray into that destiny now.

 A Word of Encouragement

 God’s timing is perfect and if He has promised you children and given you the desire (and it not just a worldly want) He is faithful.  His promises are yes and Amen.  I waited two years for my promise.   I thought it might never come.  I was almost to the point of thinking we would not have any children.  When I finally gave it to God and let go it was not long after that when we conceived.  

 

Our children are an inheritance from the Lord; they are a chosen generation.  They hear from God, they are used by God. They are not junior Christians – they are mighty for the Lord.   Pray daily, pray hourly for your children, present or yet to come.  Lay down a firm foundation for them. 

 How do you pray for your children?  What do you pray about? 

Need some direction in praying daily for you children? Check out this prayer calendar for mothers from Inspired To Action.

 

 Until Next Time,

Be Blessed

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Leaving Behind My Heart

Lord give me strength as I go where my heart is not. Fill the void left when I leave my heart behind and go where I know I’m not called but where I must go during this season. Make bold the memories I take with me and bring me back safely to the place where my heart stays.  Amen.

 This is my prayer every day when I must leave my baby behind and go off to the cold lines and heartless spaces of a building where work is done.  Work that is worthy, work that is necessary but work that I know is not my calling.  Work that to mean seems more and more in vain.  Anyone can do this job.  This is not a special job, many have done it before me and many will do it after me.  They tell me I’m valuable and I’m an asset to the company. This is nice to hear and a small part of me is glad that I’m valued and “needed.”

How much more though am I needed at the little white house on Cranberry Rd? How much more valuable is my time there? I cannot be replaced at that job. Work that is not meant for anyone…work that is meant for me.  Work that includes speaking into the life of my son, creating a pleasing and comforting environment for my husband who works hard for us.

Even when I “go to work at home” as I call it I still have a void left wherever my son is.  I’m upstairs; he is down. I’m on conference calls; he’s learning to build block towers.  I’m reviewing profit and loss statements; he’s gazing out the window at birds and chickens and I m missing it. 

A little piece of my heart is wherever my son is; as is a little part of my mind.  Imagining his awe and his wonder as he watches “Mr. and Mrs. Cardinal” eat at the feeder or the smile on his face when he gets that next block on top without making the tower fall over.  Or today while him and daddy are at Cabela’s…..that .look of wonder as he sees all the animals and the fish and see the big boats.  My mind cannot fully be at work; my heart not fully on my 9-5 when my real calling tugs at me every hour. 

So, Lord give me strength as I go where my heart is not. Fill the void left when I leave my heart behind and go where I know I’m not called but where I must go during this season. Make bold the memories I take with me and bring me back safely to the place where my heart stays.  Amen.

 Until next time,

Be Blessed

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