“We’ll be line forever right mommy?” He said tugging on his mom’s pant leg. He was probably four, maybe five years old.
I chucked to myself as she shushed him and said “No, not too long.”
This little lesson comes courtesy of a very long checkout line at Aldi.
A Lesson Demonstrated
Through my witness of this seemingly insignificant exchange between mother and child the Lord reminded me just how much my words and actions impact my son and how he will see his world and interact with it.
The idea that we influence our children isn’t new; I’m sure you’ve heard it before.
Our children will emulate what they see and hear from the adults in their lives, especially their parents.
I pass no judgement on this mother and her child, perhaps he did not hear her say such at thing before but the lesson to me remains clear.
When the guy in the car ahead of me is doing 30 in a 45 and I say “Come on buddy, gas pedal is on the right.” Is that something I want my son to say some day? Sure, me he might say it one day but do I want it to be because he got the example from me?
I had another example of this valuable lesson a few days later in my kitchen.
As I do every few days I was running the vacuum, sweeper as we call it around here. Little man was playing with the attachments and I could not figure out what he was doing with them.
I watched him a bit more closely and realized that he was imitating me when I run the sweeper by using the attachment to “clean” around the edges and beneath the counters. He proceeded to the living room where he did the same thing under the television.
At eighteen months he sees what I do and wants to do the same. It is amazing and honoring. And truthfully a bit scary. The thought that seemingly insignificant tasks are examples for him to follow is daunting.
If left to myself I’m a mess, I’m pessimistic, judgmental, grumpy and a bit on the selfish side. I don’t want my son to be like that.
My Example, His Example
There is hope. If I focus daily on the Lord, lean on Him for strength and look to Him as my example there is hope that I can be a better example for my son.
“Trust the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding” ~ Proverbs 3:5
“You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires, to be made new in the attitude of your minds, and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. “ ~ Ephesians 4:22-24
Daily I must renew my mind and spend time with the Lord.
I must also keep godly company.
I must read godly books, magazines and blogs; things that are encouraging to me as a mother.
Ultimately I must take my example from the life of Jesus. I must be as a little child with Jesus; watching Him and learning from Him.
As He is my example and I exude more of Christ in my life I will naturally become a better example to my son and everyone else around me.
Do your children imitate you or your spouse? If so how?
Until Next Time,